We cannot change the past or bring back time by any means. Although everyone is aware of the fact that what is done can't be undone, there are still instances when we become so tangled in whats already happened that we ruin our future.
Don't blame others for whatever is wrong
Whenever something distressing happens, avoid putting the blame on others. Instead in times like this, make an effort to silence out all complaints and focus on your own mistakes and that which can be corrected. It’s only natural for you to regret a situation after a setback occurs but if you keeps thinking about it, and then you are wasting your energy on things beyond your control.
If you something is against you and tells you that he will not leave you unharmed, then do not stress out too much because we fool ourselves into believing that we have complete control when in fact our situations can change in a shockingly small amount of time. In situations where people confess love for you and promise to stick by your side through everything, things can work out differently too since that very same person can all of sudden change as well but what's worthy of remembering is that one must not become too invested in thinking about such people. Instead of thinking that you are all alone now, one must look back and admit that we made the mistake of trusting too easily.
Investigate the real cause.
Often, we put the blame on others and think that we ourselves are innocent. In fact whats needed is an objective approach that makes us think about the real cause that led to some conflict. If some relationship is negatively affected, then we must look back and consider our own mistakes that could have led to such a situation.
Look back on the sequence of events that piled up to create a problem:
A problematic situation often has a series of events behind its occurrence. Looking into its sequence can be an eye-opener for us. However if there were some events that were beyond your control, then instead of wasting time on them, we should involve our energy into activities that are meaningful and productive. Regretting what was never in our control is simply a waste of time.
Try and forget what has happened:
When someone shares some difficulty with us, then we try and comfort by saying the words that be patient, this shall pass too. But when something happens to us, we realise that it is pretty hard to forget it. In such situations, we should take our own advice and focus on the present and what we can do.
Stop revisiting the past:
It doesn't take much to trigger an uncomfortable memory. A phone call, a message, a place, anything can be a simple reminder for us to start thinking about something that is better left alone. The easy solution to this is to try and avoid situations that can trigger the hurt of the past. It is a cowardly way but its far better to leave the negativity of the past in the past. If one can survive the pain of losing a father, mother, sister or brother, then it just shows that we have it in ourselves to survive other setbacks too.
