Actually the emotion of love is so intense before marriage that they tolerate one another’s mistakes and overlook the weaknesses. Both try to give a good impression, and great expectations are associated with each other.
Love is a beautiful feeling. It is said that the one who does not experience love, is deprived of the delightful feelings of life. We love our parents, friends and siblings but here we are mentioning husband and wife’s strong relationship and the love between them. It is the closest mental, physical and spiritual relationship. If the spouses have a pleasant relationship, the whole family prospers well.
Our life is unlike the stories, films and dramas where a girl and a boy fell in love get married and live happily. Life is the name of ups and downs, where we have joys but have to bear hardships as well. We have to fight the good and the bad conditions. Similarly there are ups and downs in our marital life. Sometimes the relationship is very strong and trustful or may be as the time goes on, it breaches the relationship. Simply living together does not develop the feeling of being close neither it is a proof of love. Today in our society, most of the married couples are not satisfied with their relationship. There are many complaints from both sides. The love is at its peak before marriage and even in the initial days of marriage but it gradually starts reducing. And it happens when both of them become sluggish in loving each other moreover they start giving priority to other matters of life then love. But love is like a clock and you have to keep charging it time and again.
Marriage is actually an agreement in which the spouses make a commitment to live together. While they start living under one roof, their strengths and weaknesses become visible to each other. Therefore it is required to have patience and tolerance and try to understand each other. You should avoid doing things that irritate your partner. According to my 21 years old friend, “My parents did not see each other before marriage but their relationship have been exemplary and even today they are living an agreeable marital life. But my matter is contrary to this, as I and my cousin loved each other for the past four years. Then last year we got married with our parents’ consent. But now I extremely dislike many of his habits, he also has concerns against me. I often think that it is just the beginning of our married life and we have started finding faults with each other. How will we spend the coming months and years together?”
Actually the emotion of love is so intense before marriage that they tolerate one another’s mistakes and overlook the weaknesses. Both try to give a good impression, and great expectations are associated with each other. They expect to live the same life in the future and that their partner will say yes to everything they do.
But after the marriage they have to take responsibilities and get a chance to live together, their weaknesses are exposed to each other and their dream palaces collapse!
Maintaining a good relationship between husband and wife is difficult as well as easy. For this you have to be openhearted and tolerant. Although it is not easy to sacrifice your ego but to live a happy married life and make your home a heaven, you will not find it that difficult. Although both the partners should try to understand each other but in our society women are particularly expected to sacrifice for the betterment of family. That is why when there are rifts in the relationship; woman is blamed to be guilty. In present times, one of the main reasons of increased divorce rate is the change in women’s thinking and lifestyle. In past, women were restricted to domestic life, there was no concept of women walking shoulder to shoulder with men. Women had patience to withstand good and bad behaviors. They were taught that it was their responsibility to settle down so they used to take up their husband’s and other domestic responsibilities with great care and love. In present age, the trend of women’s education has increased and they are getting higher education. Most of the women are working equal to men. They do jobs and also perform domestic tasks. They do not consider themselves to be dependent on men. They can earn for themselves and expect to get equal rights. They want their husbands to help them in household tasks. When it does not happen like this, bitterness take place in their lives. That is why the divorce rate is increasing day by day.
Husband and wife should help each other. Husband should not feel shy to help his wife performing the domestic chores. It is not a must that he does cleaning and mopping. Rather he can help children in doing their homework, do grocery and pay utility bills. Taking care of each other like this increases the love and develops a feeling of closeness. Other than performing the domestic responsibilities, wife should spare some time for her husband because it is his right to be given love and attention. Issues can be resolved through discussions. Listen carefully to each other; add a little humor as it helps to foster a pleasant atmosphere in home. Love should be expressed; it is not appropriate to hide your feelings. You should express your love so that your life partner comes to know that what feelings you have for him. Husband and wife relationship is very beautiful. The greater their trust and confidence is, the more their family prospers. Keep your life partner happy for the peace and prosperity of your family and do not undermine your love.
If a person finds people in a state that they do not say prayers yet he does not feel any sorrow in his heart, it means he is showing through his behavior that, “if Allah’s religion declines, let it be, I have nothing to do with it”
Reference Book: Maulana ki Shakhsiat aur Kamalat
A Muslim is precious than Kaaba. How would we treat a person who abuses Kaaba? We abuse Muslims every day. We do not turn our feet towards Kaaba but humiliate a Muslim who is more valuable than Kaaba.
