Readers! If a woman’s family demands of a person who is handsome, earns well and is educated too, so then why cannot the groom’s family desire for such demands? Why do all of these demands only await men? Groom’s family are cursed on their demands for dowry but if bride’s family demands for a plot under bride’s name before marriage, it is considered rightful.
Presenting the other side of the picture:
Respected Hazrat Hakeem Sahab, AslamoAlikum! I have been reading monthly Ubqari Magazine for the past five years and I gift it to depressed humanity as much as I am able to. Later I also enquire them about their condition and ask them about the different ways and spiritual healers that solved their problems. The feelings of peace and happiness that I receive when they tell me that a certain spiritual healer or method helped to solve their problem is undefinable. My problems are solved just by distributing the magazines. You are very right to say that Allah solves our problems when we become a source to solve the problems of people. Let’s come back to our topic. I have often read different articles in Ubqari Magazine that are written by women on the topics concerning late marriages, depression after rejection and not being able to find a suitable groom. There are possibilities that it is just as if they state it however, my sisters or daughters are just showing that one side of the entire society. However, I am here to state the other side of the picture to our Ubqari readers.
Find A Good Relationship For My Daughter:
Read this incident first: I have a childhood friend with whom I sit and talk the most. He has three young daughters but he says that he is not able to find any suitable relationship for them. Moreover, this friend of mines has a son along with three daughters. My friend desires to conduct their marriages in a traditional way. This means that he wants the eldest daughter to be married, and then second one, then the third and lastly his son’s marriage. In order to maintain this sequence, his eldest daughter has turned thirty, her skin has wrinkles and spots and teeth’s structure have come outwards. But she is very well mannered and obedient. He appointed the responsibility to find a suitable groom for her daughter to me.
Income of groom 60k, Height 5’5, Separate house
I made them see the pictures of almost ten to eleven men as well as their biodata but they did not find any of the person suitable for their daughter. Every time they managed to pin point some error in the person and then rejected him. I even made them meet certain suitable groom and their families but their demands were such that the man’s income should be at least 60k, height should be more than 5’5, own house, separate floor in case of joint family system and registering at least a small plot on bride’s name. I went to their home with some pictures today as well. When he saw the first picture he said: His color is a bit black, education is till B.A only, has a private job and doesn’t even has a home of his own. Kindly apologize them from our side. Bowing my head a little, I received the picture back from him and asked: I will but what are your demands? My friend answered, “Look. The person should be good looking, earns well so that my daughter stays happy. I nodded my head and changed to the other side of the picture: The guy who is good looking and earns well too must have some demands of his own as well.” My friend replied quickly: ‘Is there any such guy in your knowledge?’ I took a deep breath and said yes. He deals in the spare parts of cars, has done M.A in English and is very good looking too.’ My friend jumped up with happiness, asked me to talk to them, and threw all the pictures on the sofa. I promised him that I would talk to those people and let him know. However, he showed liking towards that person. This person was my friend’s son. Instead of talking to the father of that man, I first showed the person’s picture to the girl’s father. I also took him to his shop. My friend was very happy. He liked the person in every way. After this, I talked to the father of that person who was a good friend of mines too. He went into deep thought. I consoled him and told him that there was no problem in visiting their place. My friend nodded this head and said, “You know we cannot force today’s generation. If my son does not likes the girl then we will not do his marriage here. I quickly accepted his decision.
My friend and his wife visited the girl’s home after a week. Girl’s family was very happy. His eldest daughter entered the room in a traditional manner with tea after a while. After spending some time, all of us decided to leave, taking the picture of the girl with us. Next day my spare part-selling friend told his answer that his son has rejected my friend’s daughter.
Bride family’s demands drowned in loans:
Instead of talking directly, I said in a general way that person’s family have increased demands now a days. People also have demands and they wish that their wife belongs to a high-class family, is young and beautiful. My friend became extremely happy Asked: So the answer came. I said: No. No answer came. He was just telling what he likes. My friend controlled his angriness difficultly and then said: ‘Cursed be those men who reject girls instantly and go away.’ My friend continued to speak so many things but I kept on listening to him silently. Readers! If women want a husband who is handsome, earns well and is educated too so then why the groom cannot and his family have demands? What is the reason that demands only await men? Groom’s family are cursed on their demands for dowry but if bride’s family demands for a plot under bride’s name before marriage, it is considered rightful. It is not considered to be a problem if woman’s family rejects ten men (Rest on page 52)
