This page is donated to the diurnal familial and personal problems of women. Women should definitely write about their daily observations and experiences. Moreover, write clearly and completely on one side of the page. Even if it is unorganized.
Longest Letter
A dear daughter has written a 110 page long letter to me from Rawalpindi. The problems this child is going through unknowingly and other members of her family are also partners in her pain are a strange story. I have only one thing to say to the child that this age is very dangerous. One considers oneself self-righteous by indulging in emotivism. And he/she does not care about what others advise. I have read your whole letter. You can become a good writer. By inflicting irrelevant worries and ironies on yourself you have appointed a storm on your head. By getting stuck in the cyclone of words why are you destroying your life? You yourself say that committing suicide is a sin. Even then you have taken pills twice. You have seen that whom Allah wishes to save, nobody can harm him/her. Ups and downs keep on happening in exams. You are like my daughters. I will only say this to you that you should not give up. Leave science and take admission in humanities and appear for exams. It does not make any difference. Help your mother in her household chores. To look after your father is your duty. As far as the brothers are concerned, they are capricious. If they spread their things then instead of arguing collect them quietly. Do not make small things a problem. You can work restlessly in this age. This is the best time to take prayers of parents. It was a mistake of your parents that they wanted to make you a doctor by force. And this is why you have been getting upset. Parents should educate the children by taking into account their inclination. It is not necessary that all of the children should become doctors. Now you can tell them affectionately and they will also agree. You should not think about suicide. The soul of the person who commits suicide also remains dangling and it does not find peace. Recite Quran-e-pak and make a prayer.
Face and Hair
A lot of unnecessary hair has grown on my face. The plenty of which have dumbfounded me. I have applied a lot of treatments but they are not beneficial. Due to this illness I have become a extreme victim of inferiority complex.
Suggestion: Often there is a plenty of hair on face, neck and other parts of the body. Doctors say that this is due to hormones. Now your problem is that you have hair on your whole body. You should write a letter about yourself in a little more detail. Since when do you have them? What are your habits and likes about food? Do you get thirsty? And that have you ever suffered from any disease before? Till the time you get my reply take qast-e-sheerien from the pinsaari (grocer, druggist). Grind it fine and keepit. After cleaning the hair rub this powder well so that it goes in the pores. Apply every second day after cleaning the hair.
A Cure For Snoring
My husband snores so much every night that I cannot lie in the room. Kindly rid me off these snores. (Ahliyabashir, Khanewal).
Suggestion: Sister! There are some manners regarding sleeping too. Ask your husband to eat food early so that it digests. Secondly, observe punctuality about prayers. After reciting the prayers he should lie down on his right side by reciting tasmiyya. Any verses of Quran that he remembers, he should recite. Lying down on the left hand side is also a cause of more snoring.
Brighten the Complexion:
Please tell about improving the color. Lips are also very dark. (F. A, Gujrat).
Suggestion: I receive a lot of letters that are normally written by girls aged between 18–20 years. You should pour one tablespoon of honey in one cup of boiling water and drink it every day. Mix juice of half a lemon in one tablespoon of milk and rub it on the face and lips. Wash your face with basin (flour of chick peas that is used to make pakoras). Do this every day. Observe after a month or so there will be some difference by the grace of Allah. Facial treatment also affects a lot as it brightens the color of the face.
Hair-fall:
I am very upset about my hair. My hairs are continuously falling at a great rate. Now I feel balding on various places. My hair is very thin. (Saajida).
Suggestion: You should take equal amounts of aamla and sikakai. Dip them in water for overnight. Wash your hair with this. For dandruff use good oil from a nice medical lab. It will remove dryness and itch too. Procedure for using is written on it. Within three to four weeks there would be a lot of difference. Do not try new shampoos every now and then. This is also a cause for hair loss. Wash your hair with a good shampoo.
A Hollow Lifeless Body
We have a combined family system. We have five children. The youngest son is one year old. After his birth weakness has increased. Legs are lifeless. We have a double-storey house. I have to go up and down the stairs all the time. The body has started swelling. The belly has also started hanging out. Familial problems are arising. I look healthy apparently, but from inside my body is hollow and lifeless. (Rabia, Qasoor).
Suggestion: Miss Rabia, you should go and consult a good lady doctor. She will give you medicine and suggestion. Because without medicine your treatment is difficult.mandatorily include one cup of milk, a little bit of fruit in your daily diet. Eat seven almonds every night during winters.
Destruction of Bleach Cream
I use bleach cream. Due to this I am growing unnecessary hair, I am very upset. There are circles around the eyes and other problems too. Please help me. (Fareeda, Karachi).
Suggestion: Madam Fareeda! Someone has told you to apply castor oil on your hair after cleaning them. Do not apply that any more. You will grow more hair. Do not take needless medicines. Medicines have dangerous side-effects. Do not bleach repeatedly. It will affect the skin.
